Shut the Door of Relationships Gently — You May Need to Use It Tomorrow
By Ochuko Kokofe
Relationships Are Currency
In life, relationships function like currency. Nobody truly succeeds in isolation. At every stage, someone must mention your name in the right place, recommend you for an opportunity, or open a door you could never reach on your own.
That helping hand may not necessarily come from the wealthy or powerful. It could be your neighbour, the classmate you once overlooked, a colleague, a fellow member of an organisation, or even the house help you thought was insignificant. Never underestimate anyone. The people you meet today may become the very lifeline you need tomorrow.
Relationships Are Streams of Opportunity
Everything in life multiplies on the basis of connection. Talent is valuable, but talent without exposure often remains hidden. Many of us are like Joseph in the Bible — gifted, prepared, yet waiting for a cupbearer to speak our name in the palace.
Relationships are the streams of opportunity. They are the pipelines through which blessings, recommendations, and promotions flow.
The Power of Alumni and Old Connections
One of the simplest ways to sustain relationships is through alumni networks. Your classmates in primary, secondary, or tertiary school may not all be CEOs today, but life is dynamic. That “ordinary” classmate could be tomorrow’s decision-maker — the bridge to your next breakthrough.
Reconnecting with old friends, colleagues, and even online acquaintances is never a waste. Each connection adds to your circle of influence, and one day, that circle could connect you to your destiny.
Shut the Door of Relationships Gently
Every relationship is a door. Some doors you may walk through often, others you may not need for years. But here lies the wisdom: never slam the door shut.
Even when conflicts arise, learn to close doors gently. Avoid burning bridges in anger or pride. Life is unpredictable, and the very person you turned away from today could be the one holding your ladder tomorrow.
No Permanent Enemy, No Permanent Friend
Recent events in politics and public life remind us of a timeless truth: there are no permanent enemies, and there are no permanent friends. Interests change, alliances shift, and life keeps moving forward.
What remains constant is the value of relationships. That’s why you must respect everyone you meet — regardless of their background, social class, or present circumstances.
Final Word
Every person you encounter carries a potential key to your success. Don’t despise anyone. Don’t ignore the doors life places in your path. Instead, nurture relationships, respect them, and protect them.
Always remember: shut the door of relationships gently — you may need to use it tomorrow.
Ochuko Kokofe, former President AASMACS 2000, writes from Abuja, Nigeria.
